The Birth Plan

My midwife asked me what my birth plan was last week.  I said ‘show up, get an epidural and have a baby.’  It was pretty much the exact same birth plan I had for Parker.  The first time around I had no clue what to expect, all I knew was the fewer expectations I had of the whole experience, the better.  I actually chose not to take birthing classes and instead hire a doula because I honestly felt the less I knew about the experience before hand, the better.  I’m a worrier, and I knew having someone coach me (and my husband) through the process while it was happening was the best thing for me. Knowing all the things that could possibly go wrong would turn me into an anxious disaster.

And honestly, minus the agonizing contractions before I got my epidural, I had a pretty quick and smooth labor–it was much better than I imagined it would be because I had no expectations.  This time around, now that I have an idea of what’s to come, I’m trying to just relax and let things happen the way they did the first time around.  The problem, is even though I’m full term and know I could have this baby any day now, last Thursday my midwife pretty much convinced me that I was having the baby early.  So I’ve been kinda freaked out ever since waiting anxiously for my contractions (which I’ve been having for weeks now) to get stronger.

Since I haven’t had the baby yet, I’m REALLY hoping she stays put until at least Friday, because Andy has a scheduled vasectomy on Tuesday and apparently will be unable to lift anything for a few days.  I kind of need him to take care of a 30 pound toddler while I have a new baby attached to my boob.  I wonder if baby will cooperate.  todos

So to pass the time, I’ve checked off a few more items of my nesting/to-do list in the last couple of days.

  • Paint 2 upstairs guest rooms
  • Re-carpet upstairs
  • Replace baseboard upstairs
  • Buy bedroom furniture for one of the guest rooms
  • Assemble furniture and decorate guest rooms
  • Decorate Pippa’s nursery
  • Buy dresser for Parker’s nursery
  • Buy dresser for master bedroom
  • Paint changing table for Pippa’s nursery
  • Organize laundry room
  • Replace closet doors in master bedroom
  • Wash and organize newborn clothes
  • Order blackout blinds for Parker’s nursery
  • Buy kitchen island
  • Finish re-staining and updating the deck
  • Cut down and limb trees in yard
  • Get hair done
  • Set up baby swing etc.
  • Remodel basement 90% done
  • Paint unfinished door frames
  • Move  exchange student down to the refinished basement
  • Furnish basement
  • Buy nursing bras
  • Install infant car seat
  • Prepare freezer meals
  • Pack hospital bag
  • Dry clean couch cushion covers

Did you have a birth plan? Did it go how you expected?

7 responses to “The Birth Plan”

  1. kjersti says:

    Wow, you have done so much I cant believe it!! Great job! Are you getting a epidural for this birth? I have two kids and wish I was able to deal w back labor bad labor pains but ive heard epidurals can slow everything down and instead of a 2 hr labor i had a 18 hr labor. Just curious if your doula suggested no epideral? I personally wouldnt want to. :) Im praying for you and praying for baby to come friday!! When was the exact due date?

  2. Lisa says:

    You are amazingly organized! I had a doula with my first birth. She was the best ever and helped everything go super smooth in the hospital. The nurses honored everything on my birth plan. I wanted everything completely natural, not even an IV. It was so quick that they wouldn’t have had any time for an epideral if I wanted one. With my second birth I had a midwife and chose to have a homebirth this time around. Because I was at home, I didn’t have a birthplan. So glad you have a midwife! You’re in great hands I’m sure! I’ll be thinking about you during these last few days of your pregnancy! Praying for you girl!!!

  3. I can’t believe how close you are! I’m so excited to “meet” this little one. As most people know, I had the WORST birth experience with Alex, so I try to just stay quiet and be happy when everyone around me has beautiful, easy, amazing birth stories! And I know you will have that too!

  4. jamie says:

    Youre going to do great! I hope she goes along with your desired schedule!

  5. Hannah says:

    Haha, Ruthy! When I had Olivia that was THE exact same thing I told my doctor, when she asked about my birth plan. How can we know what to do, when we don’t know what to expect!?! In these situations, sometimes the less you plan the better off you are. I think of the old SW saying “ready, shoot, aim.”
    Good thing too- I ended up having a c-section. No way I could have planned for that!
    You will do great this time!


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