Monday, May 18th, 2015
I feel like I differ from most moms about childhood milestones. Instead of getting weepy and nostalgic, I get excited that we’ve moved on to more independence. Yes, there are challenges that come along with big girl undies and a big girl bed, but I love that we’ve transitioned through these phases, and did so fairly well (Thank you Jesus).
I had major anxiety about both potty training and moving Parker from her crib (which she slept in wonderfully) to a twin sized bed. We potty trained first. I did the typical sticker chart and chocolate as a reward and loosely followed the 3 day potty training method. By day 3 she pretty much seemed potty trained! However, the following week she went through a bit of regression with pooping. After throwing out about 10 pairs of underwear I switched to just pull ups and started the reward system over again with stickers, chocolate, and ice cream. After about a week we were back in big girl undies and so far so good!
We put together her big girl bed about a week after potty training her, and to my surprise she did amazingly well with the transition (I was worried we were doing too much too soon). I took her to Target to let her pick out her bedding (I was shocked she chose Hello Kitty over Frozen) and besides skipping naps 2 days in a row, she didn’t have any problems adjusting. I was worried she would get upset seeing Pippa in her crib, but she didn’t seem to notice or simply didn’t care.
Cheers to independence….I can’t wait till she can wipe her own butt.
Tuesday, May 12th, 2015
A couple of months ago I wrote a post on motherhood and loneliness and it seemed to have struck a chord with many of you. Combine the digital age with calendars chock full of appointments and it seems like relationships take a back seat to our schedules and instagram likes and comments trump real life coffee dates and breaking bread with friends.
I have found that making mom friends is hard; and it’s not because other moms aren’t wanting or willing, it’s just near impossible to coordinate schedules when you have kids. And relationships, if you haven’t noticed take a lot of time and effort. When you meet up with a new friend once every couple of months, it’s difficult to get past surface conversation and develop intimate relationships. And in this season of life I desperately want deep, intimate friendships.
I know there is a hunger for moms to have their own “tribe,” which is why I think so many women are drawn to and rally around anything that promotes the sisterhood of mothers. The Village Magazine is an Instagram account and quarterly publication who is doing a beautiful job at this. One fantastic idea they have is promoting and finding hostesses to host dinners in local cities. I kept checking for an event in Seattle and when none showed up I emailed them asking if I could host one in Tacoma with my super talented friend Danielle Kartes of @rusticjoyfulfood. Simultaneously I finally put into action the Instagram account @TheVillage253 (which is not related to The Village Magazine)…the idea that had been in my head for months–I just decided I didn’t need to know every detail of what I wanted it to look like; it’s not a business venture, so who cares. It’s a tool to meet other local mama’s and why put that on hold?
The tickets to the dinner sold out right away…which confirmed what I was thinking; moms are eager, desperate perhaps for community with other women. Some wonderful local mamas volunteered their amazing gifts and talents to create a spectacularly beautiful event. Moms mingled, ate, hugged, cried, nodded in agreement, laughed, lingered and left with their hearts filled and eager for another gathering. The Village Magazine’s tag line is “Bringing back the village,” and mama’s across the world are saying, “Yes, I need a village to do this motherhood thing”. We were not meant to navigate motherhood alone, yet so many of us are.
@TheVillage253 has honestly been a way for me, a desperate housewife, to meet up regularly with other local moms and think of ways to gather these moms on a frequent basis. I don’t just want a playdate, I want real friendship. In addition, it’s a great resource for moms who have questions about anything local, like midwife recommendations, kid friendly restaurants, indoor activities etc. My hope is that eventually other moms across the 253 area code (which is a fairly large area) will become admins of the account so we will have multiple postings a week of local meetups, playdates, events etc. In this day and age we have to be intentional about relationships; it’s too easy to keep up with someone on social media and neglect face to face interaction. I love social media, but I’d much prefer to look you in the eye and tell you in person you’re an amazing mama, and to get to know you beyond the cropped, filtered, edited squares of Instagram.
And a huge Thank you to the local merchants who blessed us mamas with beautiful gifts:
Tuesday, April 28th, 2015
This squishy little peanut is 9 months old. Time has never gone so fast or so slow. It’s a little mind boggling how different she is from Parker. Parenting these two girls is sure to keep me on my toes. At 9 months she still has no teeth…but she sure loves to eat. Chicken is her favorite…baby girl can put down some chicken!
She has no interest in pulling herself up on things yet, and manages to army crawl quite quickly to get around. But her favorite mode of transportation is in my arms. She’s never quite content unless I’m holding her (and now Daddy!). When I’m holding her she is the happiest baby on the block. Once I’m out of sight it’s pretty much blood curdling screaming and crocodile tears until I reluctantly take her again. She’s a master manipulator at just 9 months.
Last night was the first night she slept through the night. I’m hoping it wasn’t a fluke and that she has finally transitioned into being able to sleep for longer stretches. Sleep training has been difficult because the last 3 months she caught her big sister’s upper respiratory colds. I’m hoping her immune system has built up enough strength to get her through a few months of health.
At her 9 month check up today she measured at 28 inches (62nd percentile), just under 19 pounds (61st percentile) and in the 97th percentile for head circumference. It’s hard to believe in 3 short months I’ll have a 1 year old! (See Parker’s 9 month update here).
Wednesday, April 15th, 2015
The sugar high from Easter has come and gone. I’m not super into holiday crafts, so the fact that we dyed Easter eggs is pretty impressive in my book. Parker absolutely loved it…it’s really priceless to see her light up over new things.
I’m a couple of weeks late at getting this post up, but I couldn’t have a major holiday go undocumented!
Monday, March 30th, 2015
In my last post I mentioned how I forgot Pippa’s 8 month update…but it dawned on me just before she turned 8 months old that I had been telling everyone she was almost 9 months old. I clearly have not been getting much sleep.
This sweetly stubborn girl is not a fan of beauty rest. After attempting weeks of sleep training I’m convinced that this child is just incredibly strong willed and some sleep strategies simply won’t work on certain children. That being said…I’m incredibly sleep deprived. I’ve literally been on my knees praying over this child that prefers screaming over sleep. I just don’t really know what to do.
Food is a fun new part of the day. Pippa loves to eat, and she can put away quite a bit of food. She loves chicken, apples, pears, cheese and broccoli. Well, she’ll actually eat anything that’s put in front of her. And she drinks out of normal cups (assisted of course).
It’s funny how kids are so different in their development. By this age Parker was pulling her self up and crawling all over the place on her hands and knees. Pippa army crawls, dragging herself around and doesn’t seem interested in pulling herself up yet. And honestly I couldn’t be happier she’s taking her time; the last thing I want right now is to chase after two mobile kids!
Her babbling sounds pretty much just consist of “ma ma,” and of course that makes me happy. She curls her top lip over her gums and looks like an old lady when she babbles…it’s adorable. She’s addicted to her pacifier–Parker was not a binky baby, so I’m starting to get nervous about the weaning process; hopefully that won’t be too difficult.
She squeels with delight while playing with Parker…Pippa absolutely loves when Parker is around and fortunately Parker is quite fond of Pippa too. Seeing their relationship develop is pretty much the highlight of my life. It’s so dang sweet.
Parker’s 8 month update is here.
Monday, March 16th, 2015
I miss this space. But it’s been a season of life that has called me away from “me time,” and has instead had me torturing my snotty children hourly with a nasal aspirator, swaying back and forth and comforting sweaty, feverish children, giving bubble baths at 3 am because coughing fits turned into puking sessions, and simply being with clingy, needy, sick babes for the last few weeks. My husband and I can’t remember a time we’ve been so sick. It’s been a long winter and we haven’t quite put away the children’s Tylenol or Vicks Vapor Rub just yet; we’re about a week shy of spring and I’m praying the new season brings health. (I may have also just bought every immune boosting tincture, serum and essential oil on the market to prevent this from ever happening again).
But life goes on. Five years of marriage came and went…somehow Pippa became an 8 1/2 month old. I missed documenting her 7 and 8 month updates which makes me a little sad. Parker passed the 2 1/2 year mark…we attempted one day of potty training before “the plague” hit our family which has caused me to hold off.
While I’ve been house bound with the girls and intentionally spending less time online, I was struck with how lonely motherhood can be. I’m surrounded by amazing women with children of similar ages, but even when our families are healthy it’s hard to coordinate schedules to meet up more than a couple of times a month. Add sickness to the mix and you can literally go months without seeing your friends. And if it’s a new friendship it’s even harder to develop closeness when so much time passes between meeting up. And lets get real…there’s very limited time to have “deep” discussions when you’re on a play-date; the reality is you can’t really look someone in the eye for longer than 10 seconds when you have young children because conversations are constantly interrupted by, “‘Don’t touch that,’ ‘Don’t put that in your mouth,’ ‘Share please,’ and ‘Did you poop?'”
So it got me thinking, if I’m feeling lonely and I’m fairly outgoing and intentional about meeting other moms, there has to be a ton of other lonely moms out there! So I’ve had an idea brewing in the back of my mind that I’m working on (unfortunately it will just serve local Tacoma mamas), but it’s a pretty basic idea that anyone can copy (I’m sure there are already people doing it). The details aren’t quite all worked out yet, but if you’re local to Tacoma, stay tuned!
Thursday, February 26th, 2015
Hellooooo? Anybody out there? Have you missed me? I took an unplanned blogging/social media hiatus because I was feeling overwhelmed with life. We had 2 ER visits, a 911 call, full body hives, raging fevers, and a nasty virus that has taken down each member of our household. It’s not how I would’ve imagined we’d be spending our 5 year anniversary…but this is real life. Even before all the sickness, I’ve been thinking a lot about this blog…and why I blog, and blogging in general. So much has changed over the last 5 years. It’s hard to believe I’ve been blogging consistently for over 5 years. For me, blogging has always been a fun, creative outlet–I’ve developed really awesome friendships via the blogging community and have had some awesome opportunities come my way and have made a little extra cash too. Most importantly I’ve been able to document some of the most precious memories of my life which I look back on often.
But my motivation is waning…I’m knee deep in diapers, growth spurts, tantrums, and entirely too sleep deprived. For the first time in 5 years I’m kinda over blogging…so much of blogging for me is documenting, and now with Instagram, I can document with photos and write a snippet about that photo and not have to spend an extra hour editing photos, resizing them, making sure my grammar is correct and wondering if anyone is going to even read it. Plus I get instant gratification of likes and comments; blog commenting has declined dramatically over the years even though my readership is significantly higher than it was when I started. Not that comments are what it’s all about…but it’s validating knowing that the time and effort you put into your post is reaching someone.
I’ve seen lots of bloggers come and go over the years. I’m not sure how I feel about it anymore…Initially when I started blogging it was kind of an online journal; I think I want to head back in that direction. If I wax poetic about mommyhood I want it to be because I don’t want to forget the little things about my precious family as we grow. I believe I’ll be blogging more sporadically these days. I’ve enjoyed spending more “offline” time with my family and not looking at every single thing I do as a possible blog topic. And my husband has enjoyed being able to eat a meal without me taking 700 pictures of it first.
At least that’s where I’m at today with this whole blogging thing. Thoughts?
Tuesday, February 10th, 2015
I’m a couple weeks behind on an update, but I didn’t want to miss documenting how much this sweet little girl has grown and developed! I was nervous that I wouldn’t be able to leave her with her grandparents very much when they were visiting us in San Diego, but her anxiety issues have calmed down quite a bit. I’m so thrilled because now I can finally leave her with a sitter without her screaming bloody murder for 2 straight hours! Hooray!
We ventured into solids this month; so far she likes avocado, bananas and mum mums. I’m looking forward to her eating more food as I’m hoping it will help her sleep a bit better at night. She still wakes up every couple of hours…I’m surprisingly used to it but I cannot wait to get a full night’s sleep.
She also sits up now! I love the stage when babies can sit but can’t quite crawl yet…I’m hoping she doesn’t crawl for awhile because the moment she does is the moment I have to start regularly cleaning my floors. When she’s sitting she loves grabbing her toys and slamming them into the ground. Little board books are her favorite toys to play with.
It’s hard to believe 6 months has come and gone so quickly. Reading through Parker’s 6 month update makes me realize how similar these girls are! (Minus the sleeping through the night and cuddliness).
Monday, February 9th, 2015
It’s hard to believe that Pippa is eating solids now. For the past month she’s been eyeing my food intensely and has attempted grabbing at it, but I wanted to wait until she was at least 6 months old before starting solids. I’m not a fan of pureed baby food or starting with rice cereal…I used the Kidsme Feeder 2 years ago to transition right into Baby Led Weaning. When we were on vacation in San Diego we decided it was time for Pippa to try food! We successfully transitioned Parker to solids using the Kidsme Feeder, so it was a no brainer that we would use it again for Pippa. (I seriously LOVE this product and highly recommend it!).
I was excited to try out the Kidsme Welcome Baby Gift Set; it comes with a few items that grow along with your baby. I was sent this to try out when Pippa was just a few months old and we still use all of the items daily. The Kidsme Feeder has been stuffed with banana, avocado, and squash so far. It’s so fun to have Pippa sit with us at dinner time and eating along side us…baby girl loves to eat.
This is a picture from when Pippa was about 4 months old…she loves chewing on her Moo Moo Soother! The best part is that it comes with a lid so you can freeze liquids and use it as a cold teether too…I plan on doing that this summer! The bath toys aren’t enjoyed yet by Pippa, but Parker absolutely loves them. Sheepie is her favorite and they are her most played with toys during bath time. I love how this gift set grows with your child (or can be used by both if you have them close in age).
You can purchase all of the items individually, or packaged together in the set which makes a fantastic baby shower gift. I love innovative baby products…what are some of your favorite baby items?
Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015
Our San Diego vacation was pretty much perfect. It was exactly what our family needed at just the right time. Our final week was spent pretty much like the first two weeks with the exception of making a quick trip to Coronado Island and the Birch Aquarium. It was kind of strange to be back “home” and have my friends stop by for coffee during the week. There was a kind of closure that happened in my heart also…ever since leaving San Diego I’ve felt a longing to go back…but there was a deep conviction from the Lord that Tacoma is where we’re supposed to be…at least for now. Both my husband and I felt it and we were both shocked by it as I’ve been rallying to move to San Diego ever since we got married. Although I desperately miss the sun, some of my closest girlfriends, and the laid back lifestyle, it feels right to be back in Tacoma…to be back home.