How Wearing a Dress Can Fight Human Trafficking :: #Dressember

Tuesday, November 24th, 2015

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(Photos by the wonderful Lisa Hepfer and Jess Uhler)

Sadly, there are so many awful things happening in our world that hearing about them only causes us to shake our heads and say, “That’s terrible.”  Often we feel helpless or don’t know where to start to provide help.  But sometimes you hear about something that is so heart breaking you can’t help but do something.  Human trafficking is one of those things that is so awful, it stirs up such emotion in me, that I had to do something.

According to the state department, human trafficking is the fastest growing criminal enterprise–bringing in $32 billion a year.  UNICEF has written that at any time there are 2 million children being trafficked in the global sex trade.  CHILDREN.  It’s not just happening in countries thousands of miles away; it’s happening in our own cities. Can you imagine your sweet children being lured away or even worse parents trading their children into the system to pay owed debts?  This is happening.  It’s beyond horrific.

So you’re probably wondering what the heck wearing a dress every day for a month can do?  I was too.  So I watched this video and was introduced to DRESSEMBER.

I joined a group of amazing local women to raise money and awareness about this horrific crime. I would love your financial support for a cause that is dear to me.  If you feel lead, please donate here.  

Changing Seasons

Tuesday, October 27th, 2015

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One of the biggest changes is me deciding to go back to work full time.  I joined my husband’s real estate team, Andy Taylor Homes, and I love it.  Initially the transition was HARD. I was out of the work force for 3 years and knee deep in dirty diapers, tantrums and disciplining techniques.  But my husband and his team have been amazing and I finally feel back in the rhythm of the professional world.  I really love helping people with the process of home buying, and I love contributing to our family business. Plus being away from my children while I work makes me a much better mother when I’m at home with my children.  (And the ability to run to the grocery store on my way home from work without two young children writhing in the grocery cart is such a marvelous treat).

I flew to Nashville a few weeks ago to visit my best friend.  It was the first time I flew alone in over 3 years and it was amazing.  I finished 2 whole books people.  I haven’t completed a book since Parker was born.  I weaned Pippa from nursing the week prior.  It was sad and a relief at the same time.  Pippa is still very much a baby…she’s still not really walking, still only has 4 teeth, and because she’s my last, she’ll always be the baby.

@TheVillage253 has been flourishing and it seriously has been such a beautiful thing to witness.  The diversity and acceptance in the group is what really gives me so much hope.  There is so much uplifting, encouraging and connecting happening and it just fills my tank.  I desperately wanted to get connected to intimate friendships and I feel like I finally have–and I’m seeing other people rise up and be intentional about connecting with others as well.

It hasn’t all been peachy…life has thrown our family some curve balls and it’s been hard.  We’ve had to reassess a lot of things, examine our hearts, and make hard decisions.  But you know what’s amazing?  These hard things have been met with hope and peace.  My husband and I communicate and navigate through conflict and trials much better than we did 5 years ago.

I’m just feeling so grateful.  Perhaps it’s because my husband and I committed to waking up early to go work out and spend time with God.  For two consecutive days in a row (what?!) I spent time with Jesus before the kids woke up and before text messages and emails blew up my phone.  We committed to going to bed early 3 nights a week and I have to tell you it’s made such a huge difference in my days.  (But I fully give you permission to check in on me in 3 weeks to see if I’ve stuck to my routine–and encourage me to get back at it if I’ve fallen off the wagon)!

#TheVillage253 Dinner :: Round 3

Tuesday, October 6th, 2015


Round 3 of TheVillage253 dinners is in the books.  This was our largest event yet, and once again I went home humbled and blessed by the wonderful local mamas who attended. The last two dinners sold out within minutes so I knew I wanted to open it up to as many women as possible this time around.  My sweet friend Tiffany was able to organize logistics at a new hot spot in town, The Table. Once again the event sold out, and 60 women, mostly strangers, gathered together united by motherhood.

In just 5 short months @TheVillage253 instagram account has grown to over 700+ women. Sometimes being the first to admit, “I’m lonely,” and “I need help with this motherhood thing,” is all that’s needed before other women come out of the darkness of isolation and say, “You, too? I’m not the only one?”

For some it’s not that dramatic, but for me it was.  I hungered for deep, intimate friendship–the kind of friendship I’d experienced in my 20’s while single.  Deep friendship isn’t reserved for the young and childless…it’s out there for all of us, but we have to be proactive about it.  I prayed for almost 5 years for this kind of friendship, and from my personal loneliness TheVillage253 was born.  The Lord answered my prayer in a bigger and better way than I could have ever imagined.

At the dinner I shared with the group that developing friendship is exactly like dating.  Chemistry and frequency of dates is vital for relationships to grow.  We’re not going to have chemistry with everyone, but the more we put ourselves out there, the likelier we’ll meet people we do connect with.  But we have to make the effort to see that person we have chemistry with in order for that relationship to grow…which means inviting that mama over to your messy house for coffee or a playdate…or trading babysitting with a neighbor so you can chat over cocktails child free.  Just do it. Friendship feeds our souls.  We need friends to rejoice in our triumphs and lean on in our trials. And more than ever, we need our children to see us engaged in community; they need to see healthy relationships modeled.

If you have your tribe, I’m thrilled for you…expand it.  If you’re still seeking your tribe, attend as many gatherings as possible and consider them all group dates to see who you have chemistry with; but beyond that, be brave and invite another mama in…be brave and be vulnerable.  Let’s be a village to each other ladies. Let’s take that step and move beyond liking a picture on instagram, and liking someone in real life.

You can read about our first dinner here, and our second dinner here.

Thank You’s:

Parker Penny Turns 3!

Tuesday, September 8th, 2015

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Dear Parker Penny,

You’ve waited so patiently for your birthday to arrive.  You had to survive mommy’s birthday in June, Pippa’s birthday in July, and Daddy’s birthday in August, and you didn’t whine, or bemoan the fact that you had to wait until September before the Happy Birthday song was sung to you.  You woke up September 4th with such an excited and sweet way about you it was hard not to give you the world.  You would’ve been content with your pancakes with sprinkles on top.  You opened a few presents from Nana and Poppa in the morning and you reacted with such delight and gratitude saying, “Oh my gosh, for meeeeeee?”

You couldn’t wait to see a few of your friends at the playground later in the afternoon.  You were so thrilled that your friends got to eat cupcakes with you; when each one arrived you lead them to the table of chocolate cupcakes with sprinkles on top to see what they would all get the chance to partake in.

You are the perfect mix of kind, curious, clumsy, sweet, sass, smart, energy, and love.

Some things I don’t want to ever forget about you at this age:

  1. You love your baby sister fiercely.
  2. You only want to wear dresses…even to bed
  3. You make up songs…your favorite is about butterflies
  4. You love to twirl and dance
  5. You fall, constantly.
  6. You love Kombucha
  7. You did great at potty training early in the year…you’ve yet to wet the bed!
  8. Every morning you ask for coffee (which is heated up almond milk)
  9. You are so sweet and kind when interacting with other children
  10. You love to smell and pick flowers.

Parker Penny you are my sunshine.




Pippa Turns 1 + Doljanchi

Monday, August 24th, 2015


In Korean tradition, the first birthday is quite the celebration.  I’m definitely not crazy about huge birthday parties (especially for babies) but honoring my heritage is important.  I still have my dress (hanbok) from my first birthday, and both my girls will have theirs.  Originally I was planning an Island themed pool party, but the weather forecast predicted clouds and rain on Pippa’s big day, so we nixed the pool and I frantically called my friends to bring anything that would entertain kids in the backyard (as we were expecting about 40 kids).

I borrowed streamers that my friend Melisa had made, and my friend Angie did an amazing job making cupcakes with the island theme.  I kept things pretty simple with hot dogs and juice boxes for the kiddos and called it a day.  (I am so not the pinterest queen).

Doljanchi is the tradition of blessing on the first birthday where the child is dressed in traditional Korean wear and is placed on a mat in front of items representing their future.  There are a variety of items you can pick from such as a paint brush (represents an artist), a pencil (represents a scholar or writer), ball (represents an athlete), etc.  On Parker’s first birthday, she choose the ball, so I couldn’t wait to see what Pippa reached for.  It was the pencil…so we’ve got a future scholar and athlete in the Taylor household!

The poor girl didn’t touch her cupcake because I lit a candle and Pippa decided to touch it and started screaming. But besides that it was a pretty wonderful day full of joy and lots and lots of kiddos.

(A big thank you to Bret Schnorenberg for snapping most of these pics!)


You’re #DoinGood This Summer Mama!

Saturday, August 15th, 2015

Thank you to Socialstars and Minute Maid for sponsoring this post.

#doingood summertime#doingood summerSummers in the Pacific Northwest are pretty magical. The weather is so ideal you can’t help but be outdoors as much as possible to soak it all in.  The smell of sunscreen, chlorine and BBQ trigger happy thoughts and bring me back to my youth.  But what’s particularly fun is my husband, my two daughters and myself all have summer birthdays. Birthdays to me are synonymous with summer.  In addition to our birthdays, summer is always chock full of other’s birthdays, graduations, baby showers, wedding showers and weddings.  It seems like every weekend of summer gets booked before it even starts and laid back summers can all of a sudden become overwhelming trying to plan and attend events while working around young children’s schedules.  For a scheduled, routine person like myself I’ve had to learn to let go.  You can’t make every single event, and you can’t expect everyone to make your event.  Just make the most of the events you do attend or host and then RELAX–it’s summer!#doingood summer#doingood summertime#doingood summer#doingood summerI want my children to remember summers like I remember them…pure fun. No schedules, no homework, and little responsibility.  I want them to remember bike rides, freeze tag, swimming all day, and playing at the park.  I want them to feel celebrated and surrounded by the chaos of friends.  #doingood summer#doingood summer#doingood summer#doingood summer#doingood summertime

So summers around here mean backyard BBQ’s, staying up too late, eating cake, waffles for dinner, lots of ice cream and popsicles, parties, streamers, bare feet running through the backyard, pool baths, sticky fingers, sun kissed skin, celebrating, a little less sleep (for all of us), and a ton of beautiful memories.

What are some of your favorite childhood memories of summer? I bet at least a few of them have to do with a cool treat. Want an easy idea for these last few weeks of summer? Check out Hay Kayli’s video and share it with a friend who would enjoy doing this simple summer activity with their own kids and let them know they’re #doingood It’s that easy to encourage and inspire another parent this summer.

Replacing The Mid Mod Doors

Tuesday, August 4th, 2015

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The front door went through phases of transformation.  Here is the original interior view of the door when we first purchased the home.

mid mod doorWe updated it by painting the interior white and the exterior coral….you can see the process here.  mid mod door

When it came time to replace the door, after spending hours searching for a mid century front door, I came across the most affordable options from Home Depot.  We still weren’t sure what color we wanted to go for so we ordered a primed door while we figured out what paint color to go for. midmod doormid mod front doormid mod front doormid mod front doorWe decided on green and I truly love how it turned out.  And it’s so nice to actually be able to use our front door!

Pippa Grace :: 12 Months Old

Monday, July 27th, 2015

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My Dear Sweet Pippa Grace,

It’s been 365 days of joy and chaos and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  You’re such a happy sweet thing (as long as you’re with me).  You gave me a run for my money for a good 9 months with sleep, but these last few months you’ve been keen on sleeping through the night.  It’s so fun watching you and your big sister interact.  You LOVE your sissy.  She makes you belly laugh and it’s one of my most favorite sounds.  You’ve changed so much physically.  You were born with black hair that is now almost blonde, your chubby rolls are leaning out, you’ve got 2 bottom teeth and your two top teeth just poked out this week, and fortunately your beautiful blue eyes are here to stay.  People say you look just like me…which is strange because they also say you look just like your big sister (who looks just like daddy).

You crawl FAST.  High Fives and clapping are your latest learned skills.  You’re not too interested in walking yet which is fine by me.  Eggs are your favorite food and you’re not a fan of vegetables.  You like to pull hair; mine, your sister’s, and even your own.

You’ve taught me a lot about being a mother.  You and your sister are so different.  I’ve been so humbled and now realize that every piece of advice about motherhood should come with and asterisk because you have proven the fact that all children are different.  What works for one child may not work for another. You are your own person that is for sure!

I love you too the moon and back my sweet girl!


Your Mama.


Wednesday, July 22nd, 2015

#thevillage253dinnerIn less than 3 months my quest for real, authentic friendship and desire to bring local mothers together on a consistent basis has beautifully and organically come together and @TheVillage253 is flourishing.  Relationships take time to blossom, but just like dating, when there is chemistry, you can’t deny it!  Real connection is happening between mama’s (and myself) and I’m really excited about the new friendships being formed.  My husband said, “You just seem really happy lately.” And I totally am.

A lot of it is being able to put my time and energy into something new. But I also like knowing that if I choose, there will be a playdate or meetup for me to attend and I’ll have the chance to talk to another mama (who is also likely sleep deprived, knee deep in diapers or tantrums, and is over-caffeinated).

We recently had our second formal dinner (you can read about the first one here).  There were 20 tickets available and they sold out in less than an hour.  I was floored.  And once again it confirmed how hungry women are for authentic community.  It was an amazing evening, full of heart, laughs, tears and lingering conversation.#thevillage253dinner#thevillage253dinner#thevillage253dinner#thevillage253dinner#thevillage253dinner#thevillage253dinnerThere were fantastic raffle prizes donated by local merchants (listed below), and my favorite part was asking each attendee to nominate any local mama they knew who could use a little something special.  We donated the remainder of the ticket sales ($50) and Refinery Style Bar donated a cut and style, and Moch of Jon + Moch Photography donated a mini photo session.  I love that we could come together to bless a deserving mama just because!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to everyone who came out–we’re already planning the next one!

And a very special thank you to the people below who made it all happen!

Venue: Refinery Style Bar @refinerystylebar

Styled by: Melisa Bass @madebymelisa

Photography: Jon + Moch Photography @mochiesnyder

Food: Roberta Locke

Volunteer: @TiffanyBluhm


Refinery Style Bar @refinerystylebar

Compass Rose @compassrose_tacoma

Blooming Kids @bloomingkidstacoma

Lynnaes Pickles @lynnaepickles

Sanity  @sanityskinproducts

Meraki @withmeraki

Noonday Collection @thenerdyknitter

Hen & Co @henandco

Made By Melisa @madebymelisa

LoftusLane @loftuslane

Debbies Doodads @debbiesdoodads

Brianna Showalter @briannashowalter

Happy Fox Studio @happyfoxstudiojewelry







So Many House Projects

Thursday, July 16th, 2015

I’ve been meaning to write about all the house updates we’ve completed over the last few months months; we had so many projects going on at once it was hard to keep up. We rented out our home for the U.S. Open so all the half finished projects had to get done asap, which is why I did such a terrible job at documenting the process…we had a deadline to meet and we were in “go” mode.  We had a HUGE checklist of items stuck to the refrigerator that taunted us every time we passed by. The big projects included landscaping our entire jungle of a yard, finishing our master bathroom, finishing the laundry room, replacing all the interior doors, replacing the front and back door, replacing 4 windows and replacing the pool fence.  There were about 20 other small projects we wanted to have completed by the deadline.  We got most of them done. My goal is to give you an update on each project (otherwise this post would be incredibly lengthy).  Until then…here is a small preview of the chaos.  projects1 house projects


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